The Merry Widow

A Father to the Fatherless

Sunday, June 20th, 2010, by admin, father's day, fatherless, Psalm 68, widows, Grief, mourning period, No Comments

I made a bad mistake today. I took my kids to church on Father’s Day, against all good judgment. It was one of the first times they haven’t complained about going in a long time, but we’ll never do that again on Father’s Day until they reach the age of majority, or at least until we grow sand paper over our hearts that can take the abrasion. Now I like our pastor. He’s a very humorous guy from California whom I respect but I hope he chooses another focus for the next Father’s Day service he delivers. »» A Father to the Fatherless

Insomnia Syndrome for Fatherless Children

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010, by admin, counselling, fatherless children, Grief, insomnia, mourning, mourning period, sleep, 2 Comments

It started out as insomnia initially. Long waking hours at night which warm milk, Sleepy Time Tea, and a trip to the doctor’s wouldn’t remedy. Weeks became months and have turned into over a year in which my middle son couldn’t sleep until well past his bedtime and mine. His feet paced the floor in his basement bedroom after he resigned himself to staying downstairs so as not to wake me. »» Insomnia Syndrome for Fatherless Children

Кольцо выпуск

Saturday, May 22nd, 2010, by admin, вдова, горе, печаль, Grief, печаль, Comments off

Я еще не привыкла к этой голой, перстень мой. После трех лет, вы думаете, я бы не заметить, что без всяких украшений пальцем, но каждый день, в обязательном порядке, я считаю себя потирая пальцем по обнаженной районе, где кольцо было. Это заняло у меня около года, чтобы снять его, так что я думаю, что будет два года пытается привыкнуть к этому. Я искренне думал просто положить его обратно.

Во-первых, я красивая бриллиантовое кольцо сидели в кольце окно в моем кошельке поэтому я не буду есть ее потере или краже. Да, глупо, но независимо. Во-вторых, я устал, чтобы выяснить, что же надеть, что палец без людей спрашивают меня, если я занят или с кем-то. В любом случае, они будут думать, что-то, так почему бы не просто поставить его обратно. В-третьих, она не отвечает на другие мои пальцы, и я не вижу смысла получать его размер. В-четвертых, Есть времена, я очень рад, что люди будут оставить меня в покое за счет ловли блеск их глаз как раз вовремя. В-пятых, я не в режиме вдов знакомства еще, так кого это волнует.

Я видел женщин носить кольца на каждом пальце, так что люди даже не замечаете, один безымянный палец занята, просто все гротескные выводит на руках, но я никогда не был большим поклонником ювелирные изделия, за исключением Несколько классических прекрасные куски. Возьмите большой безделушек и броские цвета, и позвольте мне верна своему один сладкий бриллиантовое кольцо, с хорошим алмаз размером на него, и я буду чувствовать себя лучше. Люди могут подумать, что они хотят, и если когда-нибудь приходит день, когда я нахожусь в присутствии кого-то, кто займет мое дыхание, несмотря на все мои протесты о своем желании остаться одной вдовы, то я, наверное, хотите взять его от просто так он поймет, я могу быть сама по себе. До этого, я хочу, мое кольцо обратно.

Alone Again, Naturally

Thursday, May 20th, 2010, by admin, estate, widow, Widows Life, Comments off

There is something about being alone that makes or breaks you. We are ultimately on our own, even when we are married. It just doesn’t seem like it. I remember looking into the mirror after being single again, and realizing I was seeing me, the person, as I was and not me the wife I was for all those years.

Being in a group of people making plans for Friday night, and not planning on seeking out company other than that in a book or a movie is fine most days. It’s like forging ahead resolutely on some path in the wilderness with a staff and scarcely a water bottle to keep me sustained. »» Alone Again, Naturally

Scottish Widows

Saturday, May 15th, 2010, by admin, missing assets, Scottish widows, Scottish widows insurance, Scottish widows life insurance, Widows Life, Comments off

Unless you are from Scotland, or have roamed around there as a traveler, you may not have heard of Scottish Widows Insurance. I’m not sure why Scotland was so diligent about protecting its widows after the Napoleonic War, but in 1815, the Scottish Widows Fund and Life Insurance Society was created in order to ensure the livelihood and provision for widows. »» Scottish Widows

Pillow Talk

Saturday, April 24th, 2010, by admin, widow, Widows Life, sleep, Comments off

That pillow on his side of the bed is a redundant objet d’art. It is lying in some passive state with a pretty sham and no head to go on it. I’m big on pillows and nice bedding even if I get it at some fabulous sale for mere dollars, which makes it even lovelier to me. A sale is to be sought when quality is to be bought. »» Pillow Talk

Top Ten Signs It Is Time to Move On

Thursday, April 15th, 2010, by admin, Hope, mourning, top ten, widow, Hope, mourning period, Comments off

1. You no longer buckle over with that hole in your stomach.
2. Your journal includes positive anecdotes of the day.
3. You’ve given away or stored his or her clothes (even if you keep one in the armoire to hold up to your face sometimes).
4. You’ve made it through an hour more than three times a day without thinking of him or her.
5. You’ve stopped crying for longer than a year now.
6. You dream without walking through a tragic opera in your sleep.
7. You can envision the future and are looking forward to the next stage.
8. You aren’t spending every Sunday sitting by or fixing the grave site.
9. You went on vacation without him or her and had a good time.
10. Your therapist has said you’re making a dent in his couch and to get off.

Those Good Ole Boys

Friday, April 2nd, 2010, by admin, education, support group, university, widow, widow or widower, Widowed mother, Widows Life, Comments off

I’m not sure why there was such a rush for girls to be engaged by the time they were seniors in university. It was called the “senior panic” in the one I attended, and that was down in sunny South Carolina, with the moss laden trees, and melt-in-your-mouth biscuits. »» Those Good Ole Boys

Catch Me if You Can

Monday, March 22nd, 2010, by admin, war widow, widow, widow dating, widows, Recently Widowed, Widows dating, Comments off

Why is it that people think you have to be dating to be healing properly. If I don’t want to date someone, all the better for him at this moment of my life. He won’t have to drag me kicking and screaming into the dating scene and I won’t have to kill him in self-defence. »» Catch Me if You Can